Should I be mad at my X?

well i guess to play the devils advocate she doesnt value work as much as you do so she probably feels that you put work over her. it seems to me that although you have alot going for you. you somewhat allow yourself to be put in an inferior position due to your social status. she probably has someone else already to be truthful and is probably using you for financial or other reasons. she doesnt seem to respect you. I think you 2 are in different places so it will be hard to see eye to eye on most issues.